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“Please and Thank You” – Stop It, It’s Rude!

June 18, 2019 by Nile 1 Comment

“Please and thank you.”

The intent to be polite is there, but frankly, it’s just plain rude. For the younger crowd, this phrase has become popular, and it’s catching on in the 20s and 30s crowd.

When I was a young girl, I was taught to say “please” and “thank you”- never both in the same phrase. In saying please, I asked politely for some type of favor or object. In saying “thank you”, I was displaying gratitude for obtaining the object.

However, in immediately saying both together, it puts people on the spot. If someone says “please and thank you”, and you have to be out the door for another obligation, as another polite person, who wants to help, you feel guilty that you can’t do what someone asks.

When a Girl Scout comes to the door and tries to sell cookies, and after her little spiel, she says “please and thank you”, she’s being a rude. She’s assuming you’ll buy her tasty cookies because she spent all of 2 minutes telling you what purchasing her cookies will help.

The problem I keep observing is that there are a growing number of people that say “please and thank you”, and they get angry, because they feel entitled to some service being done after saying that phrase. Frankly, it’s a phrase that is becoming abused, even more so by the younger crowd that still haven’t really learned their manners.

Also, the context is always rushed, and doesn’t sounds as appreciative. It seems so blasé.

What can we do about this?


Well, I certainly know I sound like some old crotchety bastard about this, but I wasn’t raised like this, and I never raised my son to be like this. We embrace some old fashion ways, and take the time to say “please” and “thank you” when appropriate… never rushing a “please and thank you.”

Let’s make sure to teach our youth patience and proper manners. We need to also help teach them to be humble and have gratitude. In this day of fast paced technology, we need some things to slow down, so we can fully appreciate each other.

Filed Under: Opinion Tagged With: manners

My Yard Is Not A Sidewalk!

November 3, 2010 by Nile Leave a Comment

603150_4858807945818_1087410832_nI like children and people. The people I have problems with are usually ones with bad attitudes and have not been taught proper manners or respect.

I was taught while growing up not to walk through another person’s yard. It was considered rude, and by law – trespassing. Why would someone mow or plant flowers when someone is going to trample through the yard that has no sidewalk.

I know there are a lot of people who have yards and do not care, but for those who carefully cultivate their grass and flowers, trespassers push the peeve button. I had an argument with a grown woman who trekked through my yard instead of the alley. Where she walked was between the bushes and my house, only inches from my window.

For me, when I am home, I do not want people peeking or walking that close. It bothers me as I do not know who is walking through, what they want, and if they might be a problem later on. I had told her to stay out of my yard and explained why she should not be walking in another person’s property – other than it being just plain rude.

I do not go catching people because I am bored. It is pretty obvious when I can hear them. I may live in a small town, but I have been robbed before when living in a big city – it is something that triggers my fears.

Other than the woman, I have also had teenagers walk through. It was not fun dealing with them and because they were very threatening, I decided to just remind them that the police station was less than 5 blocks away and it would be certain that if I called, their parents would hear about it.

However, then I thought – maybe their parents are not teaching them proper manners? My own son is taught not to just walk through strangers’ yards. I was taught by my father and my grandparents. I have even had the opportunity to care for the lawn when I was a teen. I even helped my father with gardening – we had been featured on the front of the Lifestyles section of the Belleville News-Democrat at one time because our backyard was amazing (and not a single part was landscaped by an outside business.)

Anyhow, fencing my yard is not an option. I have thought about putting flowers in the areas people are trying to cut through. In fact, there is a lot of things I have to do to the yard, but I feel that it would not last if people are being rude and stepping through like they owned the place.

Am I being extreme when I happen to catch people walking through my yard? Any suggestions to prevent this in the future?

Filed Under: Opinion Tagged With: manners, peeves, property, respect

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