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Maybe Your Friend Doesn’t Need a Wingman for Dating

July 15, 2020 by Nile Leave a Comment

Just because your friend or family member is single, doesn’t it mean that you push other single or semi-single people on them, in hopes that they’d date. A for effort. F for execution. Ask first.

Sure, it’s nice to date someone, but it’s better on your own terms, rather than a friend or family member pushing another person on you, when your permission wasn’t given.

And definitely don’t push strangers from the bar on your single friends and family, because in most cases, it’s not going to be dating, and it’ll be a brief meaningless connection. Some of us single people don’t do hookups anymore, because we’re looking for something a little more substantial.

And for me, I get that the general intentions are good, but if I’m interested, I usually don’t need a wingman (or lady.) Others may be more shy, but still… get consent before throwing your single friends and family at others.

I realize people care, and want to see me happy, but I am actually happy by myself. Eventually I’ll be able to share that with someone else, at the right time. My happiness isn’t based on being with someone.

Filed Under: Opinion Tagged With: dating, dating fail, friends

Single Versus Married, And Mingling With Friends

November 27, 2009 by Nile Leave a Comment

When I was married, it was like all my single friends avoided me. I made myself available at times, but I guess taking about my son or my ex husband put a wedge. However, even though I am single now, my friends who are married, are the same.

It is quite confusing. Even being in a relationship with my boyfriend, some of my single friends I have met out here in Centralia have just faded into the background. It is kind of annoying since we hung out on the weekends.

Being in a relationship does not necessarily mean a person is on the backburner. It is a time to learn how to be a better friend. Of course, with being a mother, it might be hard to not involve talk about children. I have found it a touchy spot, and made sure my family life more brief and ask about my friend more. However, for me it is a challenge. Sometimes it is disheartening to not hear from one of my best friends for some time. I have felt a bit betrayed, but in the time I do get to talk, I try to ask about my friends.

I know from other mothers that this has been a big issue. It sucks when you think you are losing a friend. You might even think you were being used. However, it is not. Your friend is just unsure to approach the situation. Being single and being married or in a deep relationship is different. Even being married or deep in a relationship with children is much more of a difference then just being married or in a relationship.

What are your thoughts if you are single and have friends who are married? – married and have single friends…?

Filed Under: Opinion Tagged With: friends, married, single

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