I don’t mind people who have no filter, but there has to be some form of self control. Just because you think it, doesn’t always means you have to share it. In fact, I’ve noticed a lot of people make an excuse that they have ‘no filter’. No, you don’t have any self control, and may even on some level, lack some respect for others.
I’ve learned over the years, that you’ve got to pick and choose your battles. This extends to putting on a filter, when I know I have no filter. I know that am very opinionated and have a strong will.
However, I’ve been really irked with the male dating pool, in regards to ‘no filter.’ This no filter lifestyle involves saying inappropriate things before the 1st date, and asking questions that shouldn’t be asked until later on. Example: Complimenting someone’s boobs or making very sexually charged comments are not appropriate in the first stages of dating… unless you’re a person that doesn’t mind that type of talk.
Sure, communication is important in any relationship, but there’s a right place and a wrong place for things. Honestly, I’d think if a someone was trying to date, they’d be a bit more respectful. I’m really disappointed by the behavior.
The last conversation I had with a date, that turned out that they weren’t old fashioned, but wanted to know way more than I wanted to tell them. They also were unhappy that I wouldn’t open up to them more, even though I’m a pretty transparent person.
Being transparent doesn’t mean that you have to answer everything right away, nor does it give another person a right to bully you into answering things about you, that they’ve not earned the right to know.
I think they missed the memo on what dating was, and were more about hooking up.
Well, if someone just started dating me, talking like a sexual deviant makes me want to stay reserved, and I’m sure many others feel that way too.